Being A Full Bucket Parent
Being a Full Bucket Parent
"I can't believe this is happening" you think to yourself as your son or daughter screams at the top of their lungs. It's not a new behavior for them, but this time it feels different. The screaming is louder, more intense and seems uncontrollable. You feel your blood boil over as you watch your child rage in front of you without any way to stop them. You realize that something has to change here: either they need help or they need to leave. In either case, you know that something has gone wrong with how we're raising our kids today
What is a bucket parent?
If you're a bucket-parent, you've likely been there. You're constantly giving to your children—to the point where their needs have become your primary focus. You make sure they have everything they need, and you might even go out of your way to provide them with things they don't need (like those expensive soccer cleats). But when it comes time for you to receive something in return, or even just ask for some assistance from your kids now and then, you feel guilty.
The problem with bucket parents is that no matter how hard we try to be good parents by giving our children everything we think they need, this approach can actually do more harm than good. When children never learn about reciprocity or give-and-take relationships with others (including their parents), this can lead to some pretty serious consequences later in life.
What happens when you are an empty bucket parent?
When you are an empty bucket parent, your kids will feel it. They will know that you don’t have any energy left to give them. Your kids will absorb this, and it can affect them in ways that cause problems for the rest of their lives. They may begin to be less motivated at school or sports because they don’t see their parents as role models who do their best, but rather as people who are always tired and stressed out. They may learn that if things get too hard in life, there’s no help; just do it yourself (also known as “adulting”). Or they might compare themselves unfavorably with other children whose parents seem happier than yours does.
If you want to raise successful children who become happy adults, then try being an empty bucket parent instead!
How do we fill our bucket up?
So, now that you know the basics of full and empty buckets, what can you do to fill yours up? The first step is to talk to a professional. You may not be able to afford a therapist but there are many resources available. You could also join an online support group or chat room for parents who have similar parenting struggles. Many communities have free parent-to-parent programs as well.
When it comes down to it, being a full bucket parent means taking care of yourself so that you can be there for your kids when they need it most—and sometimes just because they want some extra attention! Here are some ways how:
Get enough sleep! This is probably one of the most important things we can do as parents because when we're tired our brain doesn't function as efficiently which affects our moods and emotions as well as our ability to respond appropriately while interacting with others around us (especially our children). If possible try setting aside time each day where no one else is awake yet so this includes everyone not just yourself but also pets too if applicable; then once those hours pass on any given day start waking up slowly until eventually getting out of bed at normal times again (which might mean going back into work later than usual). This process may take several days before feeling normal again so don't expect immediate results from doing this all at once either way—it's worth investing time into finding something better suited specifically towards each person's needs though!"
Why being a full bucket parent is important to our kids.
Being a full bucket parent is important because it sets the tone for how our kids will treat others. They learn how to be kind, compassionate and understanding by watching us. When we are caring for ourselves and taking care of our own needs, it sends a message that we value ourselves and have enough self-confidence to take time out of our day to do something good for ourselves. It shows that we love ourselves enough not just to do what feels good in the moment but also what's best long term.
When parents are stressed or overwhelmed with responsibilities, their stress can bleed over into their interactions with their children—whether they realize it or not. Kids pick up on this energy even if they don't understand the cause of it yet. By setting boundaries around your time (and making sure you come back refreshed!), your kids will learn that you're someone who cares about yourself first so therefore can give them all your attention when you're available!
If you want your kids to thrive, it is important that you take care of yourself first
If you are a parent, your children look up to you. They need a role model who is healthy, happy and well rested. In order to be their best example of self-care, you must make sure that you are taking care of yourself first. If all this feels overwhelming, don't worry! There are so many things that can be done now that will help build good habits for life.
If you want your kids to thrive, it is important that you take care of yourself first. You are the biggest role model in your child’s life and they need to see that you are taking care of yourself.